The Five Love Languages

My primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Acts of Service:		8
Quality Time:		7
Words of Affirmation:		7
Physical Touch:		4
Receiving Gifts:		4

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Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.

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Actually, as you can see, I have three main love languages (8, 7, 7).


I once crafted a quiz like that years ago for a YF camp sermon I was preaching. I think back then I was very much an 'acts of service' love language person. Especially when I was staying with my parents then, and their acts of service for me really made me feel very loved. Simple things like buying my dinner so I needn't have to brave the dangerous neighbourhood, or ironing my clothes because 'you do it so much better Mom'. Subsequently, I moved out, and quality time became a scarcity with them, hence more cherished, and more 'quality'. No more 'Ma where's the toothpaste' or similar. Just 'How have you been?' and such. But as I grew older and had more responsibilities and need for achievement and competency, and also because my parents are highly critical people, I think that without words of affirmation, qualified at that, I will feel completely shit and useless. But I will try to change that weakness.